My partner and I agreed to delete dating apps when we got serious, but I found out they still have theirs 'just for validation' and now we're both pretending this isn't happening. We keep having meta conversations about trust and digital boundaries but neither of us will directly address the apps still on their phone, and I don't know if I'm being controlling or if they're being dishonest.
More people experience this than they realize.
The gap between stated values and actual behavior around digital attention creates a shared delusion that both people maintain to avoid a deeper conversation.
“Where Are You with Dating apps — the examined life?”
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