Periagoge
Scenario

When couples keep repeating toxic patterns despite understanding where they come from

My partner and I both come from families that handled conflict by either exploding or shutting down completely, and we keep falling into the same patterns even though we've talked about it dozens of times and promised each other we'd do better. We know where these reactions come from but somehow that knowledge isn't translating into actually changing how we fight, and I'm starting to wonder if understanding our past is actually helping us or just giving us better excuses.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Knowledge of past wounds can become a comfortable prison when it substitutes for the harder work of creating new patterns together.

Your guide for this
Laozi
Laozi works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Letting the past hold you vs. learning from it?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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