My partner and I both come from families that handled conflict by either exploding or shutting down completely, and we keep falling into the same patterns even though we've talked about it dozens of times and promised each other we'd do better. We know where these reactions come from but somehow that knowledge isn't translating into actually changing how we fight, and I'm starting to wonder if understanding our past is actually helping us or just giving us better excuses.
More people experience this than they realize.
Knowledge of past wounds can become a comfortable prison when it substitutes for the harder work of creating new patterns together.
“Where Are You with Letting the past hold you vs. learning from it?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.