My partner and I moved here from Kenya and we keep having this tension where I want to honor ubuntu time - showing up when relationships call for it, staying at gatherings until the natural end - but they've adopted the Western schedule completely and get frustrated when I'm 'late' or when we stay at community events longer than planned. We both want to belong but we're pulling in different directions about how time should work in our relationship.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are navigating different relationships with time itself, where honoring community rhythm conflicts with adopted efficiency demands.
“Where Are You with African ubuntu time — event-based and relational?”
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