Periagoge
Scenario

When one partner uses memento mori to avoid processing grief

My spouse has become obsessed with memento mori practices after a friend's sudden death and wants us to completely restructure our lives around the principle that we could die any moment, but I think they're using death awareness to avoid dealing with actual grief. We're stuck because any resistance I offer gets framed as denial of life's fragility.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Death awareness is being used as spiritual bypassing rather than genuine reckoning with loss.

Your guide for this
Laozi
Laozi works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Stoic memento mori — remember you will die?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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