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Scenario

When couples compete over grief and the memory of someone they both loved

Ever since my best friend died in that accident six months ago, my husband and I have been having this weird unspoken competition about who loved her more, who's grieving 'correctly,' and who gets to carry her memory forward — and it's making me feel like I'm losing both of them.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Loss has created a scarcity mindset around love and remembrance, turning partnership into rivalry over who deserves to be the primary mourner.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The gift of mortality — what loss teaches about being alive?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.