It's been thirty-five days since my brother died and our family is split on whether to do a traditional forty-day gathering or something smaller because of ongoing family tensions that got worse after his death. My parents want the full observance but some of my siblings are barely speaking to each other and I'm caught in the middle trying to honor both my brother's memory and the reality of where we are as a family.
More people experience this than they realize.
The sacred container of mourning tradition is being tested by pre-existing family fractures.
“Where Are You with Islamic mourning — the forty-day tradition?”
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