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When friends bond over shared trauma but get stuck in it

My best friend and I both went through divorces last year and we've been each other's lifeline but lately I feel like we're stuck in this cycle of venting and validating each other's anger instead of actually helping each other heal and move forward.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Mutual wounds can create connection that becomes a prison when pain becomes the primary language of intimacy.

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