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When friendships built on childhood survival patterns need to evolve

My best friend and I have always bonded over being the 'responsible ones' since we were kids, but lately we're both realizing how much that cost us and we don't know how to be friends without that dynamic. When we try to just be playful or spontaneous together, it feels foreign and somehow wrong, like we're betraying something.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are discovering that their deepest connection was forged in loss, and they don't know who they are to each other beyond that shared wound.

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