My best friend and I have been close for fifteen years but since she got married and I'm still single, there's this weird new awkwardness where we're both trying too hard to prove nothing has changed while also not talking about how everything has changed. We're being careful with each other and I hate it.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are trying to preserve a connection by pretending transformation isn't happening, but intimacy requires witnessing each other's actual lives, not the lives that make the friendship feel safe.
“Where Are You with Desire and its changes over time?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.