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Scenario

When friends with benefits realize they're enabling each other's avoidance of real love

My best friend and I have been sleeping together on and off for two years and we both know we're using each other to avoid dealing with what we actually want from love. We've talked about stopping but neither of us seems able to, and it's starting to feel like we're protecting each other from growth in a way that's becoming its own kind of harm.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are using their sexual connection as a refuge from the vulnerability required for deeper love, creating a dynamic that feels safe but may be preventing both from growing.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The examined love life — what it means to love well?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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