My best friend and I have been supporting each other through relationship struggles for years, but lately I've noticed we give each other advice that's basically just reactions to our respective parents' marriages. She always tells me to leave and I always tell her to work harder, and neither of us is actually seeing what the other person needs.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your inherited relational fears are masquerading as wisdom, limiting your ability to truly see your friend.
“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.