My best friend keeps choosing partners who are emotionally unavailable and then calls me crying when it inevitably falls apart, but when I try to point out the pattern she gets defensive and says I don't understand. I love her but I'm watching her repeat the same cycle over and over and our friendship is getting strained by my frustration and her resistance.
More people experience this than they realize.
Witnessing someone you care about choose familiar pain creates a rift between loving honesty and protective distance.
“Where Are You with Attachment style in choosing partners?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.