My brother and I are approaching the yahrzeit of our father's death and we've realized we remember completely different versions of who he was — he wants to honor the loving father, I can't stop thinking about the angry man who hurt us, and we don't know how to sit together at the same memorial service.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are discovering that grief doesn't erase the complexity of who someone was, and shared mourning rituals can force uncomfortable reckonings with different truths.
“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.