My brother and I are both in relationships now but we grew up in a house where love was conditional and explosive, and we realize we're both struggling to believe we're worthy of the kind of stable love our partners offer us. We've never talked about this directly but I think we're both sabotaging good relationships because we don't trust them.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're seeing how childhood wounds around love are playing out in both your adult relationships in similar self-defeating ways.
“Where Are You with The examined love life — what it means to love well?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.