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Scenario

When siblings parent while grieving their own lost childhoods

My brother and I are both parents now, and we're trying so hard to give our kids what we never had that we're exhausting ourselves and comparing notes in ways that make us both feel like we're failing. Every decision feels loaded with the weight of our own lost innocence, and we can't tell if we're healing or just passing on different damage.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are trying to give what they never received while their own unmet needs create an undertow of grief and comparison.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief for lost childhood?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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