My brother and I are both parents now, and we're trying so hard to give our kids what we never had that we're exhausting ourselves and comparing notes in ways that make us both feel like we're failing. Every decision feels loaded with the weight of our own lost innocence, and we can't tell if we're healing or just passing on different damage.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are trying to give what they never received while their own unmet needs create an undertow of grief and comparison.
“Where Are You with Grief for lost childhood?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.