My brother and I both grew up with an alcoholic father and now that dad is dying, we're realizing we have completely different relationships to that trauma and to him. We love each other but we can't understand each other's choices about how much to be present for his death.
More people experience this than they realize.
Shared trauma from a parent's addiction doesn't create shared responses, and siblings often find themselves on opposite sides of forgiveness and presence.
“Where Are You with The grief of addiction — losing yourself and others?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.