My brother and I both inherited our father's tendency to withdraw during conflict, and now our partners are frustrated with both of us for the same reasons our mother was frustrated with him. We want to support each other in changing this pattern but we don't know how to practice being different when it's the only model we ever had.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're both carrying forward the same learned behavior while trying to help each other transcend what you never saw modeled differently.
“Where Are You with Your Parents' Relationship and How It Shaped Yours?”
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