My brother and I had a terrible fight six months ago about how we handled our mom's estate and we've barely spoken since, but now we have to plan our dad's 70th birthday together and we're both pretending everything is fine while seething underneath. We keep having these polite, careful conversations that dance around everything we actually need to say to each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
The original wound festers while life demands collaboration, creating a double bind between self-protection and shared responsibility.
“Where Are You with Repair after conflict?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.