My brother and I have been the primary caregivers for our mom since her diagnosis, and we've developed completely different approaches — he wants to research every treatment option while I just want to make her comfortable — and we're starting to argue in front of her. We both love her desperately but we're handling our fear in ways that are making us strangers to each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love the same person are discovering that love can manifest as competing visions of protection, and their different ways of managing helplessness are creating distance when they most need each other.
“Where Are You with Anticipatory grief — losing someone before they die?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.