My brother died suddenly in a car accident six months ago, and my sister has been angry that I'm not 'grieving properly' because I keep saying at least we didn't have to watch him suffer like we did with Dad's long cancer battle. She thinks I'm being cold, but I genuinely feel grateful we were spared that particular agony, and now we can barely talk about him at all.
More people experience this than they realize.
Different experiences of loss have created incompatible frameworks for grief that are threatening the very connection needed for healing.
“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.