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Scenario

When a friend's sobriety changes the foundation of your relationship

My closest friend and I have been drifting apart since she got sober eight months ago, not because I don't support her recovery but because all our shared rituals involved drinking and we haven't figured out how to be close without those. We both feel awkward about it but neither of us knows how to rebuild our friendship around who we're becoming.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Recovery can reveal how much of a connection was built on shared ways of escaping, leaving both people to discover what remains.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with African grief traditions — communal mourning?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.