My closest friend died six months ago and our friend group has been trying to figure out how to observe his yahrzeit together, but some of us want something more traditional while others want to do what he would have wanted, and we're realizing we all knew different sides of him.
More people experience this than they realize.
Friends discover that mourning together requires negotiating not just different relationships to ritual, but different relationships to the person they've lost.
“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.