My dad and I are both dealing with my mom's death, but he wants to go through all her things right away and I can't even walk into their bedroom yet. We keep hurting each other's feelings without meaning to - his urgency feels disrespectful to me, and my need for time feels like avoidance to him.
More people experience this than they realize.
Grief's irregular rhythm creates misunderstanding when people interpret different timing as different degrees of love or respect.
“Where Are You with Love and mortality — loving in the face of loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.