My daughter and I are both trying to repair things after I lost it and said some really hurtful stuff during her college decision crisis, but now she's being almost too understanding and mature about it and I can tell she's protecting herself from me. I apologized but I can see something shifted in how she sees me and I don't know how to earn back her trust without making it worse.
More people experience this than they realize.
The child's premature forgiveness serves as a shield against further hurt, leaving the parent to confront the irreversible change in how their authority and safety are perceived.
“Where Are You with Repair after conflict?”
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