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Scenario

How friend groups navigate conflicting feelings about sudden versus prolonged loss

My friend group has split into two camps since our friend died suddenly last year — those of us who feel relieved she didn't suffer through a long illness like her mother did, and those who feel cheated that we didn't get to say goodbye or prepare. We used to be able to talk about anything, but now mentioning her name feels like stepping on a landmine.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Divergent grief philosophies within a friend group have created an unspoken divide that threatens the shared love at its center.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Sudden loss vs. expected loss?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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