My husband and I are approaching our daughter's first yahrzeit and we can't agree on how to observe it — he wants something small and private while I feel like we need our community there, and we're both afraid of dishonoring her memory by doing it wrong.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who share the deepest loss are discovering that their needs for remembering and honoring diverge in ways that feel threatening to the sacred work of mourning.
“Where Are You with Jewish mourning — shiva shloshim yahrzeit?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.