My husband and I are both in our seventies and he's become obsessed with Viagra and performance in a way that makes sex feel like a test rather than connection, while I'm more interested in slow intimacy that doesn't center on erection. We're both frustrated and starting to avoid physical closeness altogether because we can't seem to find a middle ground that honors both of our needs.
More people experience this than they realize.
The gap between performance-focused sexuality and connection-focused intimacy can create profound disconnection when partners cannot hear each other's deeper needs.
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