My husband and I are three years out from his affair with a coworker and we've done the therapy and said the words but I still find myself checking his phone when he's in the shower and he still gets defensive when I ask about his day, and we both pretend this hypervigilance is normal now.
More people experience this than they realize.
The aftermath of betrayal by someone incapable of genuine accountability creates a permanent state of emotional hypervigilance that both partners mistake for healing.
“Where Are You with Narcissistic partners?”
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