My husband and I are trying to figure out how to fight better because we both learned that anger was dangerous in our families, so now we're two adults who don't know how to disagree without one of us collapsing into terror. Every conflict feels like we're eight years old again trying not to make things worse.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your childhood survival strategies around anger are keeping you from the kind of honest friction that deepens love.
“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.