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Scenario

When couples can't access healthy conflict because of family trauma

My husband and I are trying to figure out how to fight better because we both learned that anger was dangerous in our families, so now we're two adults who don't know how to disagree without one of us collapsing into terror. Every conflict feels like we're eight years old again trying not to make things worse.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Your childhood survival strategies around anger are keeping you from the kind of honest friction that deepens love.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Family-of-origin patterns in adult love?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.