My husband and I both blame ourselves for our daughter's accident but we've stopped talking about it because every conversation turns into one of us trying to absolve the other while drowning in our own guilt. We're protecting each other from pain we're both already carrying and it's making us strangers in our own grief.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are carrying separate versions of the same unbearable weight, unable to set it down together because each believes they must shelter the other from what they're both already experiencing.
“Where Are You with The death of a child — the unnatural loss?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.