My husband and I had a miscarriage four months ago and we're both realizing we had completely different visions of what parenthood would mean to us, which we never talked about when we thought it was just going to happen. Now we're grieving not just the pregnancy but also these whole futures we each imagined that were apparently totally different from each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
The loss of a potential future is exposing the gap between two people's unspoken assumptions about what that future would have meant.
“Where Are You with What grief reveals about what matters?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.