My husband and I have different parenting styles and our kids are starting to play us against each other — they go to him when they want permissiveness and to me when they want structure. We love each other and our kids but we're accidentally teaching them that we don't respect each other's authority.
More people experience this than they realize.
Children can sense when their parents are not truly united, and they will unconsciously exploit that division in ways that undermine the whole family system.
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