My husband and I keep having the same fight about his mother expecting us to visit every Sunday while I work weekends, and we both feel like we're failing someone we love no matter what we choose. He says I don't understand filial duty, I say he doesn't see how exhausted I am, but really we're both just trying to be good people in an impossible situation.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love each other are discovering that their different understandings of duty create competing loyalties that feel irreconcilable.
“Where Are You with Confucian Partnership Ethics — Duty and Love?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.