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Scenario

When couples fight about money but mean something else

My husband and I keep having the same fight about money — I want to save more, he wants to enjoy what we have — but really we're fighting about completely different fears about the future that we've never actually named. Every budget conversation becomes a proxy war for things we can't say directly.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The practical disagreement has become a container for deeper fears that neither of you knows how to voice.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Disenfranchised grief — when loss isn't recognized?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.