My husband and I keep having the same fight about money — I want to save more, he wants to enjoy what we have — but really we're fighting about completely different fears about the future that we've never actually named. Every budget conversation becomes a proxy war for things we can't say directly.
More people experience this than they realize.
The practical disagreement has become a container for deeper fears that neither of you knows how to voice.
“Where Are You with Disenfranchised grief — when loss isn't recognized?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.