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When couples disagree about whether past hurts should still be mentioned after forgiveness

My husband and I keep having the same fight where he says he's forgiven me for my drinking years but then brings up specific things I did when I was using, and I don't know if he's not really forgiving me or if I'm expecting too much from forgiveness. We're both trying but we keep getting stuck in this cycle.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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You're both struggling with the difference between forgiveness and forgetting, and what it means to honor the past without being trapped by it.

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