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Scenario

When couples disagree about whether past hurts should still be mentioned after forgiveness

My husband and I keep having the same fight where he says he's forgiven me for my drinking years but then brings up specific things I did when I was using, and I don't know if he's not really forgiving me or if I'm expecting too much from forgiveness. We're both trying but we keep getting stuck in this cycle.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

You're both struggling with the difference between forgiveness and forgetting, and what it means to honor the past without being trapped by it.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Forgiveness in Love — What It Takes?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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