My husband and I processed the school shooting completely differently — he threw himself into activism and I went numb and stopped watching the news — and now we're living in parallel worlds where his urgency feels like pressure and my withdrawal feels like abandonment to him.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love each other are discovering that shared sorrow doesn't guarantee shared healing, and their different responses to collective trauma are creating distance between them.
“Where Are You with Collective grief — mourning public figures and tragedies?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.