My husband and I thought we'd prepared for his father's death, but now that he's gone we're both drowning in how much we actually loved him and didn't know how to show it while he was alive, and we keep taking that regret out on each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Recognizing love fully only after loss creates a specific kind of shared pain that can drive partners apart precisely when they most need connection.
“Where Are You with What we learn from grief about love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.