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Scenario

When grief reveals the limits of what partners share

My husband's best friend from college died six months ago and I've been trying to support him through the grief, but I'm jealous of how much he loved someone I barely knew and guilty about my jealousy. We're both struggling with what it means that there are depths to each other's capacity for love that we weren't part of, and neither of us knows how to talk about it.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Witnessing your partner mourn a friendship can illuminate the reality that even in marriage, we love other people in ways our spouse cannot fully access or understand.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Friendship as love?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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