My mom and I have been stuck in this pattern where she shows love through cooking and cleaning for me, which makes me feel infantilized, but when I tell her my love language is quality time, she doesn't know how to relate to me without doing something. We're both trying but missing each other completely.
More people experience this than they realize.
Different ways of giving and receiving love can reveal fundamental disagreements about autonomy, care, and what the relationship should be.
“Where Are You with The love languages — examined critically?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.