My mom calls me every day and drops by unannounced constantly, and while I know she loves me and wants connection, her need for closeness is suffocating the solitude I've worked so hard to create. We end up in these awful cycles where I withdraw and she pursues harder, and I don't know how to love her without losing myself.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two different but valid needs for connection and space are creating a dynamic that satisfies neither person.
“Where Are You with The choice to live alone — solitude and flourishing?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.