My mom calls me every day and drops by unannounced constantly, and while I know she loves me and wants connection, her need for closeness is suffocating the solitude I've worked so hard to create. We end up in these awful cycles where I withdraw and she pursues harder, and I don't know how to love her without losing myself.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two different but valid needs for connection and space are creating a dynamic that satisfies neither person.
“Where Are You with The choice to live alone — solitude and flourishing?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.