My mom is dying and my brother lives across the country, so I'm handling most of the day-to-day care, but he keeps making decisions about her treatment from a distance. We both love her but we're fighting about her instead of grieving together.
More people experience this than they realize.
Geographic separation can create an imbalance in both burden and authority that transforms shared love into competing control.
“Where Are You with Cumulative grief — multiple losses?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.