My partner and I are both descendants of Holocaust survivors and we've realized we're planning our wedding around this unspoken fear that celebration itself feels dangerous — like we're both waiting for something terrible to happen if we're too happy. Our families carry this differently and we don't know how to build something joyful without feeling like we're betraying the weight of what came before us.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're trying to create new life together while navigating the ways ancestral grief has shaped both your relationships to joy and safety.
“Where Are You with Historical grief — intergenerational mourning?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.