My partner and I both feel incredibly grateful that my mom lived to see our wedding and meet her first grandchild, but we're also grieving that she died just three months later and our daughter will never really know her. We keep having these moments where one of us is celebrating a memory while the other is feeling the loss, and we don't know how to hold both at the same time.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're discovering that grief and gratitude can feel mutually exclusive even when you know they're meant to coexist, and your different emotional rhythms are creating distance instead of connection.
“Where Are You with Grief and gratitude — the paradox?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.