Periagoge
Scenario

When couples both carry childhood trauma and struggle to support each other

My partner and I both grew up in homes where we had to be the adults way too early, and now that we're trying to build something healthy together, we keep triggering each other's hypervigilance in ways we can't seem to talk through. We both recognize what's happening but we don't know how to hold space for each other's grief without drowning in our own.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people who lost their childhoods are trying to love each other while their protective mechanisms clash in painful recognition.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Grief for lost childhood?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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