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When couples with trauma histories struggle to create safety together

My partner and I both have trauma histories that get triggered in completely different ways, and we've realized we keep accidentally making each other feel unsafe without meaning to. We love each other deeply but we're both walking on eggshells, trying so hard not to hurt each other that we've stopped being ourselves.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people who love each other are caught between their own healing needs and their fear of causing harm, creating a tender prison of hypervigilance.

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