My partner and I both loved Sarah deeply but in completely different ways — she was my college roommate and his work mentor — and now that she's gone we keep stepping on each other's grief without meaning to. We're both trying to honor her memory but our ideas of what that looks like are so different that we end up hurt and defensive instead of comforted.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who loved the same person are discovering that shared loss doesn't automatically create shared understanding.
“Where Are You with The death of a friend?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.