My partner and I have been together for fifteen years and when their ex-husband died unexpectedly last month, I watched them grieve someone they once loved completely and I realized I have no idea how to support mourning for a love that came before me but was still real and formative.
More people experience this than they realize.
Supporting a partner's grief for an ex requires expanding one's understanding of love's permanence beyond the boundaries of current relationship structures.
“Where Are You with What we learn from grief about love?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.