My partner and I have been together for three years and I've realized I've been putting them on this impossible pedestal — expecting them to be this perfect romantic ideal — and now they're starting to feel like they can never be enough for me. We both know something needs to shift but I don't know how to love them as a real person instead of my fantasy.
More people experience this than they realize.
The gap between idealized love and intimate reality is creating distance where there should be closeness.
“Where Are You with Courtly Love & Idealization?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.