Periagoge
Scenario

When couples lose spontaneous desire and don't know how to talk about it

My partner and I have been together for three years and lately we both feel like we're performing desire rather than feeling it — going through the motions because we think we should want each other the way we used to. We're both pretending it's fine but I can see in their eyes the same question I'm carrying: is this what happens to passion or are we doing something wrong?

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are caught between the mythology of eternal passion and the reality of desire's natural rhythms, afraid to speak honestly about what they're experiencing together.

Your guide for this
Mira
Mira works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Eros — Greek desire and its wisdom?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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