My partner and I have been together for twelve years and we still love each other but we've become like efficient roommates who coordinate schedules and split chores and I miss the version of us that used to surprise each other. We both feel it but we don't know how to get back to being curious about each other instead of just comfortable.
More people experience this than they realize.
Love has settled into logistics, and both partners are grieving the loss of discovery while fearing that reaching for it might disturb a peace that works.
“Where Are You with Long-term partnership — sustaining love over time?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.